The number one question you should be asking yourself!

My mom and I JUST had this conversation last week. We were talking about how our personalities do not allow us to just “settle.” We are always working to be better and the word complacent is just not in our vocabulary.

Sometimes I watch from a distance, without judgement of course, and just wonder why people settle. Why do people settle for bad relationships or marriages? Why do people settle in their job or why are people in a current role when they are capable of so much more? Happiness I guess…but what I notice is that these people seem the most unhappy in their current role whether it be in their relationship, job or time in their life.

You want more? Are you sitting back wondering why she has more? Because these people have gained the confidence to not settle for good when they know they are GREAT and will put in the work to be GREAT!

Do you know what? YOU can build the confidence muscle to do this too! You don’t have to sit back and watch from a distance and just wonder why…You have every ability to be great and I am here to tell you all this, especially you who may be stuck in “good.”

Want to know a secret? Every single person you may be comparing yourself to has struggled. Every single person you are admiring from afar has had a hard season(s), but they overcame it by building up their resilience muscle. “Well Jessica, how do I do this? Does this require weightlifting?”

My answer is that the only thing it requires is for you to try and remain consistent. Continually put yourself out there and go for what you determine as great.

We all have a different definition of “great.” Great to some people may be to have a family of their own. Great to some may be receiving their doctorate or being a business owner. To others, it may be becoming a manager, teacher or working their way up the corporate ladder.

So what I would like for you to do is stop and think about this for a second. What is your definition of great? Now pause reading for a few minutes and write it down on an index card and put this on your bathroom mirror where you can see YOUR definition of great every single time you look in that mirror.

SO happy to have you back! Fact or fiction…You are THE only person who can determine what your vision of great looks like? That would indeed be a FACT!

On the flip side, there are a few rules that come with settling for “good” when you know you are capable of more. The number one rule of settling…you are unable to sit back and judge those who are choosing to propel forward and are working towards their great. Got it? You are not allowed to whine and complain by saying, “Look at all that she has!” NO GIRL! NO! YOU are setting women back generations with this verbiage and mindset.

So what are you going to choose? Good or great?

The belief starts within yourself. If you believe you are capable of great, then you are one step closer to achieving greatness, however greatness looks to you.